I’ve always been fairly self-aware. At 16 I took myself along to counselling because, well, isn’t that what any 16 year old does?! I’ve always been a thinker, I’ve pondered and reflected, sometimes to my own detriment. But what this month has made me question is what I am doing with all this self-awareness? Having found flaws, characteristics and deep rooted issues, what am I doing about them? I have a tendency to self-obsess over my faults and issues and to remain stuck there. What March has taught me is how to start moving forward out of these and actually make progress with my self-discovery. Unsurprisingly a lot of these character muscles work together and so forgiveness and gratitude have helped climb out of my self-made mires. Forgiveness towards myself and past situations and thankfulness for what I’ve come through, what I’ve learned and where I’m going.
Joy, hobbies and friends have also a key factor in growing in this area. These traits work together to build health and all can be cultivated. Focusing my energy on being joyful, enjoying my creative side and spending time with people who sharpen me, continually love me, who call me out and who will support me as I overcome wounds has been hugely beneficial.
Practically speaking, opening my heart up to people in the difficult areas I’ve come to be aware of has helped enormously. Although I’m a thinker, I’m also a talker. I love to have good deep and meaningful conversation, it actually energises me. Finally writing out areas that have come into conscious awareness has helped me not only to remember them, but also to work on them and find the good things which have come out of them.