Jean-Paul Sartre had it it right when he said “We are our choices”.
One of the greatest problems I come across in my job is people choosing to exercise and eat well. It just doesnt come naturally to some people and a lot of us want all of the benefit but with no effort.
We are either a slave or a master to our choices. You either have them under control or you don’t. For the past 5-6 years I have not always had my choices under control and that’s no ones fault but mine. I felt pushed and pulled to make decisions which ultimately were not healthy for me, I lived out of a place where choices had the potential to cripple me and really I was the only one stopping my choices from being healthy. The thing with choices is that whatever we decide, we need to live with that and realise that our choices create actions which create consequences. Sure, sometimes the consequences really can’t be seen but on the whole the majority of choices we make do have consequences we can foresee. But to say I had no choice is to relieve myself of responsibility. We are all responsible for our choices but the problem is, are we living in the right space to make the right choices at the right time?
My choices, and subsequently actions, have caused great consequences over the last 5-6 years which when I look deeper, started way before that. The biggest choice I’ve had to make is to let that go. To let go of the negative choices which were made, let go of the way I was living and thinking and the consequences of that. It’s happened and it’s done. Only I have the power to choose to move forward and embrace what life looks like now. What makes that scary? Is that I still have no idea how some of these choices will pan out but I have to roll with it and choose to believe that I am in a better place physically, spiritually and emotionally. I’m in a more stable place to make choices and I’m more aware of choices which will impact me negatively. I just have to choose to make the hard decisions.
‘But until a person can say deeply and honestly, “I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday”, that person cannot say, “I choose otherwise”‘. – Stephen. R. Covey